All-or-None Mentality Game 🎲

My default mode used to be all or none. I didn't realize so many people struggled with the same thing.

It can be an excellent trait or a disastrous trait, depending on what you're all-or-none-ing. 

I would typically "all" at work and "none" at home. 

My house would be a disaster zone, or I would deep clean all weekend—no middle ground. 

I would either be on a crazy extreme diet or drinking queso through a straw (hey hey, haven't mentioned queso in a minute. 😂😂)  

Full-blown party mode (you're my boy blue) or in bed by 8pm. 

No TV or I would binge 7-seasons of Celebrity Big Brother UK edition on YouTube. (If you know, you know.) 

I was constantly exhausted, and my life didn't have an ounce of balance. 

There was always a disaster somewhere.  

I would be kicking ass in one area, and the rest would be a war zone. 

At the time, I firmly believed if I couldn't go ALL in and give it 175%, there was no point in trying because it would be a total waste of time.  

I was tired of feeling exhausted and decided to believe that there was a remote possibility that I could learn how to stop the all-or-none. It was a stretch at the time. 😂 

I started small. 

On Saturdays, I would sit down and make a list of 25 things I could do, should do, would like to do. (housekeeping, chores, hobbies, basic maintenance stuff, decluttering, bills, budgeting, candy crush, reading, etc.) 

I set a rule that I could only do each thing for 15 minutes max. I would not let myself get carried away and go all-in on something. 

I would have Siri pick a number between 1-25, set my timer for 15 minutes, turn up the 90's gangster rap, and do whatever task was listed next to that number. 

I'd stop as soon as the timer went off and ask Siri to pick another number. * I'd leave it on the list if I was able to complete it in 15 minutes. 

My brain HATED this in the beginning because it went against everything. 😫 

But, I stuck with it, and I started to notice that I was making progress in several areas. 

I made sure to include things for every area of my life because it was all about that balance, yo. 

The more I did it, the more I realized that the all-or-none mentality wasted my time, not the other way around. 

I would make a ton of progress when I was in "all mode," but once that I hit "none mode," I would hardcore backslide and often end up in a worse position than where I started. 

I played this little game for YEARS. It was the baby step that helped me break that cycle, and I grew to love it. 

Fun little fact for those of you with kids: my niece, the little Ya-Ya, LOVED playing Siri says.  

She would come over for the weekend and ask if we could play Siri says and clean.  

And I never said no to that. 😂 Who am I to rob her of the opportunity to have fun? 🤷‍♀️ 

I'm much more strategic in how I spend my now; however, if I find myself with a free Saturday, I'll pull out an old game of Siri says just for fun. 

Give this is a shot if you struggle with the all-or-none mentality, it will challenge you in the beginning but stick with it, and you'll quickly start to see the value in the middle ground. 

Ironically, you'll experience much more significant results when you find balance and learn how to "live in the middle." 

When you are ready to master the art of living in the middle, hit me up. I can help you gain some immediate relief.  

I'll show you precisely what you need to do to get there, and how I could support you and help you speed up that journey.  

🎯 Book your free call here. The call will be more than worth your time, even if working together right now isn't a good fit.

Master of the middle,
Machele

Machele Galloway is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School. She's based in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and specializes in helping her clients manage their time and their minds. She firmly believes that you can't manage one without managing the other. She virtually coaches women nationwide. If she isn't coaching clients, she is studying concepts and techniques. And if she isn't doing that, she's probably playing with a dog or watching the Real Housewives of some city. - “Life is short. Play a little.”