When was the last time you thought about the type of questions you ask yourself?
The questions you pose will send you on a scavenger hunt that will either propel you forward or drop sugar in your gas tank.
Let me explain…
Here's a sampling of common questions I hear during coaching sessions with my clients.
Why can't I figure this out?
Why do I always give up?
Why don't I have more discipline?
Why am I always so damn lazy?
Why can't I be more confident like others?
Why do I always procrastinate?
Why do I always (or never) _______________, ______________, ______________?
These seem like helpful questions on the surface because we think if we can figure out the WHY, we can finally find the solution.
Buuuutttt
Questions like the above only result in you creating a list of everything wrong with you (self-perceived flaws, of course.)
Have you ever felt motivated to do anything after reviewing and thinking about all the ways you're f---- up? 😂
Uh, nope!
Do you REALLY want to find solutions? If so, try this:
Replace your "Why" with "How" and revise your questions.
Such as:
Why can't I figure this out? ➡ How can I make it easier for me to figure this out?
Why do I always give up? ➡ How can I make it easier for me to keep going?
Why don't I have more discipline? ➡ How can I develop more discipline? How can I make it easier for me to have discipline?
Why am I always so damn lazy? ➡ How could I make it easier for me to get more involved in my life?
Why can't I be as confident as others? ➡ How could I develop more self confidence?
Why do I always procrastinate? ➡ How could I make it easier on myself to tackle my tasks on time?
These questions will lead you to finding a solution or at least your next best step.
What question(s) have the most airtime in your head right now?
Write them down.
Revise them.
Answer them (well, at least one of them).
If you have difficulty adjusting yours, hit reply, share your questions, and I'll help you out.
And if you want to make changes in your life and are curious about how I could help you, you can snag a spot on my schedule by clicking HERE. These sessions are free and enlightening AF (even if we don't end up working together.)
You'll dump everything you're going through on me, I'll guide you through a specific process, and then I'll let you know how I could help you.
It's free.
And learning something new about yourself and your situation is powerful AF.
Hi! I’m Machele Galloway, a certified life coach, former hot mess, and lover of all thing self-development. I have transformed the hell out of my life and am obsessed with helping other women do the same. I work exclusively over Zoom. Nothing will change if you change nothing and I’d love to help you change all the things! You can book a free consultation to discuss what it would be like to work together and find out how I could help you support you with the changes you’d like to make in your own life. You can lock down a spot on my calendar HERE.
