Difficult childhood
You can waste an insane amount of time and energy trying to understand why your childhood was the way it was.
Ruminating over how your life could be so much better if only _______________.
Holding onto this idea that your childhood should have been easier, it should have been better, it was all wrong, and it wasn’t fair.
You can spend the majority of your LIFE in this space, many people do.
But, what if, there was always going to be a struggle?
What if becoming unapologetically, authentically yourself can only be found on the other side of your unique childhood struggle?
What if there should have been a struggle?
There’s way more evidence that this is true.
What if the only thing that has gone wrong is your thinking that it should have been different than it was?
It was what it was.
It is what it is.
You can for sure live in the space of it should have been A, B, C.
…spend time arguing with reality.
…spend time feeling royally pissed off and bitter. But why?
It’s like being angry that it’s raining and letting it ruin your day.
It’s raining, and sure, you can decide to be upset over it, but what’s the pay off?
It’s not going to stop raining and you’re going to continue feeling awful.
You can make peace with your past no matter how f---- up it was.
No matter what the details are, I promise.
I see it happen all the time.
Side-note: I guarantee that there are many people in the world who would have LOVED to have your childhood. Did some have a much better childhood than yours? Sure. Did some have a worse childhood than yours? Abso-fucking-lutley.
I had two consecutive coaching calls where my clients talked about their childhoods. One said if only she had gotten more attention from her parents growing up, she’d be much better off now.
The other legit said that if her parents had relaxed and not paid her so much attention, she wouldn’t have all of her issues.
It’s never the parents.
It’s never what they did and didn’t do.
It’s our story. Always.
There is a gap between your childhood and your life now as an adult.
And that gap is your story.
It either serves you or it doesn’t.
It either helps push you toward creating a life that you love, or it causes you to create more of what you experienced growing up.
Subconsciously.
You can take full responsibility for your life from this point forward and give yourself (and your inner child) what she/he needs.
You often, unknowingly, treat yourself the same exact way we didn’t want to be treated growing up.
You perpetuate it.
You just keep creating a big ole bucket of feeling like shit (and then feeling frustrated because you feel like shit) on autopilot.
You can change this.
You can totally clean this up.
You can heal that part of your inner child and give yourself what you most need.
You can let everyone else off the hook and take full responsibility for yourself.
Who better than you to take that over?
Nobody.
You’re the only one that can clean it up.
Your childhood doesn’t have to change for you to feel better.
Your parents don’t have to change for you to feel better.
Your thinking has to change, and not in a woo-woo-pretend-everything-was-great-and-I’ll-feel-better way.
I’m talking about separating facts from fiction.
Dropping some curiosity and objectivity on it.
I can help you cut through all the mental noise so you can clean your story up quickly and start creating the life you want.
Best regards,
Machele
Machele Galloway is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School. She's based in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and specializes in helping her clients manage their time and their minds. She firmly believes that you can't manage one without managing the other. She virtually coaches women nationwide. If she isn't coaching clients, she is studying concepts and techniques. And if she isn't doing that, she's probably playing with a dog or watching the Real Housewives of some city. - “Life is short. Play a little.”
