Have that someone in your life that just doesn't seem to get it and won't change no matter how hard you try?
Exhausted because you spend a ton of time overthinking, worrying, and strategizing ways to make it click for them?
So you can help them "get it"?
Their problem isn't yours to solve.
You have great intentions, but it's a swing and a miss.
I spent YEARS trying to get people to "get it" and after spending thousands of hours coaching women, here's what I know in my bones (and a few questions to help you see things differently).
#1 - Hyper focusing on someone else's problems is simply a distraction from your own.
What if this is true for you?
What would you be focused on if you weren't worried about them?
What if what you perceive to be their problem isn't actually a problem?
Who are you to think you know how someone should live their life better than they do? Genuinely. I came to this realization years ago and it felt like a kick in the gut for me but REALLY shifted things.
#2 - Solving their problem for them is the worst thing you can do.
There are times we need to suffer and feel like shit to finally learn the lesson we need to learn.
The most powerful breakthroughs come on the other side of super painful phases. I've personally experienced this many times and I see it all the time with my coaching clients. You are robbing them of the opportunity to learn the lesson they need to learn. If you fix it for them, you're guaranteeing that they won't learn the lesson.
#3 - You could pull off some amazing things in your own life if you used your time and energy to focus on creating a life that you love. A life that is so amazing it doesn't require you to fix other people to feel better.
What would you focus on this year if you fully committed to working on your own life?
How could you make it easier to hold space for the people you love to go through what they need to go through and learn what they need to learn? One their own time?
What is one way you could practice more unconditional love for this person? What if fixing them isn't better, like REALLY, what if that is the worst thing you could do for them?
Pick one of the questions about that resonated with you and journal about it.
You have everything you need to create an amazing life for yourself.
And you put all of that on hold when you base satisfaction with your own life on how other people chose to show up in their own.
Nothing will change if nothing changes.
I'm here to help if you need it.
👉 You can schedule a free consultation HERE to learn how.
Machele Galloway
Certified Life Coach
Email: macheleg@lifeleapcoaching.com
Hi! I’m a certified life coach and I own a coaching practice in which I work full time. I work with women individually and in groups. If you’re curious about what the hell a life coach does and/or want to find out how I could help you, book a free consultation. They’re super fun and totally worth your time even if we don’t end up working together. And don’t worry if you feel like a hot mess…that’s my favorite! I love helping people go from hot mess to wild success. Hope to meet you soon! You can book your free consultation HERE.
