"Something has gone horribly wrong..."

I have been pretty quiet over the last month or so in regards to writing and publishing content.

As some of you know, I decided to scrap the entire backend of my business and start over.

I had a few roadblocks thrown in the way that caused me to pump the brakes and re-evaluate everything.

So I did.

I just focused on serving my existing clients.

I gave myself some space to breathe and process. 

And once the dust settled, it was full-blown uncertainty.

My least favorite emotion.

I can move mountains when I feel certain.

But when I feel uncertain, it's like a tranq dart in the neck.

I spiral off into confusion, indecision, frustration, annoyance - a big old buffet of cluster F---. 🤣

That's my default mode, my default reaction.

I know how to interrupt that cycle now, but it's still CRAZY persistent.

The part of our brain that loves problems (our little inner Debbie Downer) wakes the F up when something goes wrong.

She jumps into catastrophe mode and gets to work.

"Something has gone horribly wrong here."

"You're such an idiot; you should have known better!"

"What the actual F are you going to do now?!"

"You have to start completely over!"

"The-sky-is-falling-and-we-are doomed."

It feels so damn true, heavy, and daunting.

But it's not.

My brain is supposed to do that when there's a problem.

But, it's only a problem if I believe those thoughts —none of it is actually true.

I am really good at managing my mind; it's what I do for a freaking living.

But, I still had to reign my little Debbie downer in over and over and over.

I could have easily stayed in this cycle, believed all of it, taken action from those beliefs, and created a ton of unnecessary suffering for myself.  

I did this for most of my life because I didn't know any better.

But now I do.

And this is what I teach.

Yes, problems happen.

We have choices in how we respond to them.

Our default reaction rarely serves us (because it's coming from little Debbie Downer).

You have to override that default reaction to create a new result in your life.

It's incredibly simple (not easy, but simple).

And it's hard to do on your own because it's so difficult to see the difference between "reality" and your Debbie Downers' story.

I could have EASILY spent the next six months running my business into the ground if I didn't have access to my tools and the bag of mind management tricks I've created over the last several years.

EASILY.

...because it feels so damn true.

The dust has settled.

I have my new game plan.

And I'm much better off for the interruption.

I choose to continually redirect the default "something has gone wrong," thinking to what else was true.

Something has gone wrong, but I have the opportunity to rebuild my business from scratch.

I wasted so much time, but I will create something that doesn't exist in the world by doing it my way.

I have no idea what the right way to do this is but the right path for me doesn't exist yet; it's my job to create that.

It sucked; this last month has felt wonky, wobbly, and frustrating.

But it's also crazy exciting because I've had SEVERAL breakthroughs that wouldn't have happened otherwise.

And I filed for my first trademark for a new idea I had.

And I'm developing a new method for processing negative emotions (personally, my LEAST favorite thing to do 😂😖).

And I'm giving myself FULL permission to run my business however I want to run it.

[ I didn't even realize I wasn't doing that before this all happened.]

So a situation that could have quickly shut me down has now rocket-launched me into a new direction that I feel crazy inspired and excited about pursuing.

And it's because I was able to manage little Debbie and keep her from calling the shots.

Nobody teaches us how to manage our minds.

So we're all running around turning problems into catastrophes, trying super hard to create better lives, and getting crazy frustrated with the lack of results.

You cannot out-action your story.

You will completely burn yourself out trying.

You have to interrupt your default reactions to the situations that shut you down, and this is a skill you have to develop.

And this is how I help.

If your "Debbie Downer" is calling the shots, let me help you.

We can hop on a Zoom sesh so you can fill me in your sitch.

I will show your blind spots, where you should focus your attention and energy, and how I could support you in the process if you're interested in working together.

Above all, call BS on your stories, and you HAVE to do this from a place of curiosity, not frustration.

Question yourself often,
Machele

Machele Galloway is a Certified Time & Mind Management coach She's based in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and works virtually with women all over the world via Zoom. She specializes in helping her clients manage their time and their minds. She firmly believes that you can't manage one without managing the other. If she isn't coaching clients, she is studying concepts and techniques. And if she isn't doing that, she's probably playing with a dog or watching the Real Housewives of some city. - “Life is short. Play a little.”