The most important question...
I look at self-care as giving yourself what you need without judgment or apology.
I'm talking about what you need deep down.
Checking in with ourselves when we are struggling and asking a super simple question…
“What do I need?" (we always know)
We often hope others will take care of that for us, and we give little hints. { I did this for YEEEAARRSS }
And we help them try to UNDERSTAND what we need so they can check the box.
But now I look at self-care is letting everyone else off the hook and taking responsibility for checking our own boxes.
Recognizing what you need and giving that to yourself.
Whatever that need might be.
We all need different things at different times.
You might need...
➡ A 24-hour break from worrying.
➡ To “go dark” and give yourself a break from your phone and the world.
➡ A nice little RHONY binge-session while playing candy crush (this might be one of mine)
➡ to give yourself permission to feel pissed about something and let it be okay.
➡ To forgive yourself for not showing up in a way that you're proud of.
➡ a day off.
➡ Splurge on Sephora
➡ support - have your own back.
➡ To remind yourself that you are human, and sometimes humans are messy, and it’s OKAY.
➡ To remind yourself that your needs matter.
➡ Uber-eats
➡ To hire a housekeeper to deep clean your house so can you get back on track
➡ Compassion. Just good old-fashioned self-compassion.
➡ Exercise
➡ To give yourself time to process something you're going through
I legit bought some kinetic sand the other day after I asked myself that question. 😂 Those ASMR videos on Tiktok got me...that sand is magical, but it's also super messy and all throughout my keyboard now. 🤷♀️
Self-care doesn't have to be grandiose; it can be as simple as an ounce of kindness toward yourself.
...focusing on what you love about yourself instead of what you don't.
Assigning someone else the responsibility of fulfilling your needs isn't fair to them or you.
And it doesn't work.
Drop the judgment and honor what comes up for you.
Play around with it.
I'd love to hear how it goes...
If you struggle with honoring your own needs, reach out to me. I can help you understand what is really going on for you (and it’s not that “something is wrong with you” or “you’re too far gone”). I promise.
Best regards,
Machele
Machele Galloway is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School. She's based in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and specializes in helping her clients manage their time and their minds. She firmly believes that you can't manage one without managing the other. She virtually coaches women nationwide. If she isn't coaching clients, she is studying concepts and techniques. And if she isn't doing that, she's probably playing with a dog or watching the Real Housewives of some city. - “Life is short. Play a little.”
