Productive Pain...

You should feel like shit when you're chasing big goals or transformation. 

I never knew this.  

I always thought it meant I wasn't ready, motivated enough, or just wasn't “mean to be.” 

What I didn't know is that, if I wanted to create new results in my life, I would have to be willing to feel awful.  

You already have the results from doing what comes easily. 

You have to do new things to have new results. 

Period. 

Doing new things will bring up ALL the feelings, insecurity, discomfort, fear of failure, confusion, and overwhelm. 

Your primitive brain will go bat shit because it feels like something has gone horribly wrong. 

It will scream: We are in danger, make it stop. As if you're playing in traffic blindfolded. 

You cannot experience change if nothing changes. 

And you cannot change without discomfort. 

My goal for years was to stay dead center in the middle of my comfort zone. 

Nothing ever changed—slight changes here and there, but certainly nothing significant. 

Yet I still felt all of those negative emotions; they were just caused by different things.   

Discomfort from not being an active participant in my life. 

I was just mailing it in. 

Bored. 

Uninspired. 

I was going through the motions. 

Numbing out. 

Unknowingly, I chose door number two. 

The one that contained feeling like shit without any payoff at the end. 

Just more of the same. 

Well, I pried open door number one and cemented it open, lol. 

The one where I choose to feel like shit…on purpose. 

Often. 

But this is the one with a payoff at the end. 

Productive Pain, I'll call it. 

Going live on Facebook. 

Pretty much every other email or blog I write, lol. 

Showing up with my coach in a vulnerable way. 

Setting huge goals that require me to leap out of my damn comfort zone. 

I feel "Grindey" all the time (an emotion that I created.) 

It's where fear, nervousness, anxiety, vulnerability, and all the bad boys show up at the same time and have a little party. 

I legit can feel it in my throat. 

My brain screams to shut it down. 

Do something else. 

Anything else. 

"You should really clean the house, or create a new spreadsheet, or organize my files, or take a break, etc." 

I get to this intersection, so-to-speak, where I get to decide if I'm going to go with the path of least resistance or go with productive pain. 

I don't always pick productive pain. 

But it does feel amazing on the other side of pushing through all of that resistance. 

Even if the outcome isn't what you wanted... 

Just stepping into that space is empowering. And a bit addictive. 

I'm creating a new process for going after massive goals. 

And it woke the beast. 

Grindey emotion has dropped anchor and isn't going anywhere. 

It's almost comical. 

But it is here to stay, and I'm willing to let that be okay, even though it royally sucks sometimes. 

...because the payoff is 1000% worth it. 

What if you could immediately change your "stuckness" in life? Today? 

What if you just had to be willing to choose door number one – productive pain? 

...because you deserve the results that will come from it. 

...because you're going to feel like shit either way, you might as well pick the one with a payoff at the end. 

We all know "what" we need to do, but actually doing those things is another story. 

It requires us to do things that we don't feel like doing, and our brains are hard-wired to stop us. 

And it will. 

Not because something is wrong with you. 

...because you don't know how to manage your mind. 

Of course, you don't, nobody teaches us how to do that. 

And that's where I come in.

Imagine how different your life would be in three months, two months, one week if you were willing to feel all the feels. 

Often. 

It's not as bad as you think, and it can be quite fun as well. 

I can help you manage your mind through all the "grindeyness" when you are ready to go all-in on that goal or transformation. 

Book your free call here to learn how. 

Best regards,
Machele

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Machele Galloway is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School. She's based in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and specializes in helping her clients manage their time and their minds. She firmly believes that you can't manage one without managing the other. She virtually coaches women nationwide. If she isn't coaching clients, she is studying concepts and techniques. And if she isn't doing that, she's probably playing with a dog or watching the Real Housewives of some city. - “Life is short. Play a little.”