Embracing Disappointment

Every time I didn't get something I wanted, I ended up getting what I needed.

Last week was probably one of the best I've ever had, at least in the top 5. 

So fun. 

And then a "disappointment bomb" dropped in my lap this week. 

And reminded me that life is always 50/50. 

It was one of those situations that blindside you and cause you to stumble back. 

I haven't been this disappointed in AGES! 

And it sucks. 

Royally. 

Before, I would just numb out to get through it. 

Jager, Frank-the-tank mode, you know the drill. 

But I know that just makes it worse in the end, so I'm pretty good about keeping that in check. 

I just had to sit with the suck. 

Hold space for the disappointment. 

And it's not enjoyable, at all. 

I did my best to catch myself when I'd start going down the "I should have..." rabbit hole. 

I should have noticed the signs.

I shouldn't have been so gullible.

I should have known better.

I shouldn't have been so trusting.

I should have trusted my gut.  

And damn, those thoughts came fast and furiously. 

I would slowly reign it in and remind myself that shit happens.

Of course, I could have done things differently.

I'm human...we're not supposed to do things perfectly. 

I had to consciously choose to have my own back by reminding myself that trusting someone isn't a mistake. 

Taking chances and trying new things is never a mistake. 

Things don't work out sometimes, and that's okay.  

It makes the things that do work out that much more exciting. 

I did my best not to make the situation worse by sending 4,000 voice memos to a friend who got caught up in this situation. 

And I had grace for myself when I realized that I had sent 3,500 voice memos. 🤣 

I had to gently reign myself in when I started going into TMZ mode, researching all the things to send MORE voice memos. 

Catastrophize much? 😂 

But seriously, no fun at all. 

The only way through it is to let it suck, give yourself space to process it, have your own back when you notice that you're showing up messy, and give yourself what I need (and trust that you know the answer to this.) 

In this case, I needed to wipe my calendar clean of commitments outside of coaching my clients and give myself some space to think and breathe. 

And just process. 

During this reflection, I realized that every time I didn't get something I wanted in life, I ended up getting what I needed. 

And that isn't always so obvious when you're going through it because the path can get super foggy. 

So I am going to trust that the same is true in this situation. 

It just might not make sense for a hot minute. 

But I'll end up getting what I need out of this situation. 

And nothing has gone wrong here, just a little humanness, and a bad day or two.  

Feel it to heal it,
Machele

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Machele Galloway is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School. She's based in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and specializes in helping her clients manage their time and their minds. She firmly believes that you can't manage one without managing the other. She virtually coaches women nationwide. If she isn't coaching clients, she is studying concepts and techniques. And if she isn't doing that, she's probably playing with a dog or watching the Real Housewives of some city. - “Life is short. Play a little.”