I work with quite a few solopreneurs.
One came to me recently because she was spinning the f--- out.
She told me that nobody in her life supported her business.
They didn't believe in her/her idea and she was all alone.
Her parents questioned if she had made the right decision, and her friends seemed less than excited.
And she was pissed, hurt, and couldn't understand why nobody cared.
Um, I get it; launching a business is CRAZY difficult.
I'm pretty sure my family considered planning an intervention when I mentioned the idea of launching my coaching practice. Kidding, but not really. 😂
My friends were confused, I'm sure.
Anyway, she spent a large portion of her time spinning out over why nobody supported her.
She played through all of the things that she had done for them in the past, how she would support them, and so forth.
Here's the thing, though.
Her friends’ reaction to her launching a business had nothing to do with her.
If her friend felt stuck in her own life, this would trigger her insecurity and maybe a little envy.
If her friend felt like nothing ever goes her way, she might feel resentful.
If her friend felt stuck in a dead-end job, she would be triggered in a major way.
If her friend was in a good place in her own life, she would show up much more compassionate and encouraging.
We're all going through our own BS and we often project that into the people around us.
But that's okay too.
Her friends support and her parents’ belief in her business isn't what matters.
She doesn't need any of it.
She let them all off the hook.
HER belief and her support of HERSELF is what matters.
If she fully believes in herself, it doesn't really matter if anyone else does.
If she doesn't believe in herself, she will try to get that from other people.
And that NEVER works.
She's the one that has to show up and make it through the gauntlet that is required to create a successful business.
And make no mistake, it is a freaking gauntlet.
Rewarding, no doubt, but it's quite an obstacle course in dealing with all of your own BS. 😂
She was putting that responsibility on them and giving away all of her own power.
And she couldn't even see that it was happening.
🐟 The whole fish in water can't tell he's in water kinda thing. 🐟
She is now focused on giving herself what she needs - both in life and in her business.
And when her friends/family show up in a supportive way, it's just kinda nice.
It's no longer required.
There isn't any drama around that anymore.
Now she focuses all of her energy on managing the drama that comes up with running a solo business.
And there's plenty to deal with there.
Where might you be offloading your responsibilities on to other people?
Get super curious, it's painful, ineffective, and you can waste a TON of time trying to change the world around you.
All you need to change is the world within you, and the rest will take care of itself organically.
If you are curious about what it's like to work with me, or would like to learn how I could help you specifically, you can schedule your free consultation call here.
The 45-minute session is totally worth your time whether we end up working together or if you decide it's not a good fit right now.
Be your biggest cheerleader,
Machele
Machele Galloway is a Certified Time & Mind Management coach She's based in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and works virtually with women all over the world via Zoom. She specializes in helping her clients manage their time and their minds. She firmly believes that you can't manage one without managing the other. If she isn't coaching clients, she is studying concepts and techniques. And if she isn't doing that, she's probably playing with a dog or watching the Real Housewives of some city. - “Life is short. Play a little.”
