Yesterday I coached a client because she wanted to know how to stop feeling like she wasn’t good enough.
We ALL have a version of “I’m not good enough” lurking below the surface.
Some numb out to silence that voice through social media, alcohol, food, general busy-ness, etc. (I like to refer to this as my 20’s)
Some treat that voice as headline news and are out there reading all the books, studying all the things, beating themselves up into change so they can FINALLY fix themselves and feel worthy (hey 30’s, I see you!)
And some have gone to therapy, hired a coach, learned how to manage their minds, and have found a way to work with this voice instead of against it. (Me in my 40’s, aka present moment lol)
Not going to lie, when you first start doing the work it feels awful.
I had a client once say “Um, if I stop beating myself up, I’ll never accomplish anything! I’ll just lay on the couch all day and sloth myself out of existence.”
[Spoiler alert - that isn’t how the story ended. She did not, in fact, sloth away. Quite the opposite. She's her own bestie now and her life inspires the hell out of me now!]
Most of my clients believe the same thing, hell, I believed the same thing for many years.
But here’s the thing we rarely pause to think about...
What makes someone “good enough”?
Like really sit and think about it for a hot second.
Imagine there’s a jury that decides whether each person is good enough.
How would they decide?
Good enough for what?
Some believe if you work really hard you’re worthy and valuable (hey 20’s, I see you)
Some believe it’s based on your net worth.
Relationship.
House.
Philanthropy.
Religion.
Fun/funny.
What do you think makes someone good enough?
Where do you draw the line?
20-30’s me HATED the idea of mindset and belief work. It felt too woo-woo and unproductive.
But here's why it's the most critical piece:
You are hardwired to prove your own beliefs true (unconsciously) for survival.
Whatever you believe today will become your tomorrow.
Do you believe that the best part of your life is behind you?
Do you believe that you’re too old, poor, too rich, young, thin, overweight, unhappy, uneducated, too educated, too shy, too loud, etc.?
“Make sure you like what you believe about yourself because you’re out there unknowingly proving it true!”
It’s like the law of gravity.
Or we could call it the law of bullshit beliefs, lol.
Here’s an exercise you can do to help you stop feeling like you’re not good enough!
I encourage you to sit down and write out what you believe about yourself, who you are in the world, and what you’re capable of creating in this one life you have.
If you don’t like what you read, focus all your energy on cleaning those up, because you will prove them true.
…and you will do it unconsciously and not even realize it!
This is why coaching is so valuable.
Believing new things isn’t easy, it requires intention and effort, and it's totally worth it.
If you need help, I’m here.
I am currently fully booked and not accepting new individual clients. If you’d like to get in on the action, you can click 👉 HERE and add yourself to my waitlist.
If you want to see drastically different results in your life, you need to make drastically different decisions.
Here to help,
Machele
Hi! I’m Machele Galloway, a certified life coach, former hot mess, and lover of all things self-development. I have transformed the hell out of my life and and have spent well over 4,000 coaching other women to do the same in their life! I work exclusively with women one-on-one and in group format. I’ve developed a framework and process called New Bitch Energy™ which provides you the shortest path to your goals. It’s all about showing the F up AND have fun while you’re doing it (instead of trying to beating yourself up to growth). Curious about working with me? You can lock down a spot on my calendar HERE so we can dig into it. #self-worth #selfimprovement #selflovetips
