Nothing Left To Fix

I just finished a session with one of my clients. She is my fixer client if y’all remember that email. The one that I put on fix-it detox because she was so hyper-focused on figuring out what was wrong with her.

Anyway, she has come a long way in a super short amount of time. She broke up with her boyfriend a few months ago, and is dating again. She filled me in on all the things that happened since we last met. 

One of the guys she went out with tried to kiss her and she turned him down. 

Sounds easy enough, right? 

Not for her. She was so used to people-pleasing that she would have kissed him because she didn't want to hurt his feelings. Even though she had zero desire to do so. 

That same weekend she went to a party at a millionaire’s house, with several other people in the same circle. She isn't poor by any stretch of the imagination, but she certainly isn't a millionaire. She said she had an amazing time and really enjoyed herself. She was one of the last people to leave.

Sounds easy enough, right?

Not for her. Normally, she would have felt super uncomfortable the entire time she was there because she was always so worried about how people judged her. 

But not this time, it didn’t even cross her mind that they might be judging her. 

She didn’t feel the need to hurry home so she could relax and put a stop to the anxiety and assumed judgment.

She felt like she belonged.

This was massive progress for her. 

The progress wasn’t because she "fixed" herself, it's because she finally realized that there's nothing to fix.

She stopped judging herself so it didn’t really matter if they were. 

She's a ton of fun, very charismatic, and super engaging. 

I’m sure everyone has always thought this about her, I could see it the minute I met her. 

But now SHE believes it. 

She sees it. 

And that's all that matters.

She knows that she belongs at the party, of course she does. 

"What do we do now that there's nothing left to fix?" She asked at the end of the session.

I said, well, this is the part where you actually get to enjoy your life. Instead of hyper focusing on what you don’t want. We’re going to hyper focus on what you do want, and then you’re going to go get it. 

So fun!

I can see a physical change in her, a lightness. She has spent over 30 years on a mad mission to fix herself and now she fully understands that there’s nothing to fix. 

She is so calm, relaxed, and peaceful and it’s so damn rewarding to be along for the ride.

Once you clean up your mindset, the rest of your life organically follows suit. 

If you are stuck on rinse and repeat with your mindset, hit me up.

I can save you a ton of time filled with unnecessary suffering. 

Life is super short and there’s a much easier way to live yours.

You can book your free call here 

Best regards,
Machele

Machele Galloway is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School. She's based in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and specializes in helping her clients manage their time and their minds. She firmly believes that you can't manage one without managing the other. She virtually coaches women nationwide. If she isn't coaching clients, she is studying concepts and techniques. And if she isn't doing that, she's probably playing with a dog or watching the Real Housewives of some city. - “Life is short. Play a little.”