I spend a lot of time coaching my clients through their pain and frustration about how other people treat them.
A LOT.
I sure as hell went through a lot of it myself back in the day, so I know the struggle all too well.
Here are a few tips that will help gain a sense of relief right now.
Tip #1: If someone else's opinion of you triggers an emotional response, it's because you a) believe them on some level b) are making that thing about you mean something terrible. For example, let's say someone told me that I was lazy. Back in the day, I would lose my shit over it. Probably even lose sleep. Spin the f--- out. Now, if someone said that to me, I'd be like, "Yeah, I know, right?" Because I can be, so what? Find love for yourself and ALL of your qualities - even the ones you consider "negative."
Tip #2: Let it be okay if someone is wrong about you. [someone else's opinion HAS NOTHING to do with who.]
Tip #3: Don't try to numb your emotions. I work with so many people who have spent their entire lives numbing out, and now it's hard for them to feel anything. Emotions are a gift - even the shitty ones.
Tip #4: Let the people in your life show you the lessons you need to learn about your relationship with yourself. IF someone says something that triggers you, lean into it, get curious about why it bothers you. If it's a quality you have, own it. Love it. We're human. We're not supposed to be perfect. I'm super lazy at times, but I'm also a shit ton of fun. I can be self-absorbed sometimes, but I'm also there to help a bitch if she needs it.
Take ownership of it all.
Instead of trying to change other people's opinions of you, spend that time changing your opinions of yourself.
This work is simple, not easy, but super simple.
And you deserve the relief that comes on the other side of doing this work.
And I can support you in the process.
Schedule your free call here to learn how.
Best,
Machele
Certified Time & Mind Management Coach
Email: macheleg@lifeleapcoaching.com
