Your Internal Bully

One of the best habits you can implement is to start calling BS on your thoughts. 

It's simple, yet nobody ever tells us to do this. 

We have around 6,000 thoughts each day. 

I'm going to guess that about 5,750 aren't even true. 

They are just optional thoughts floating around. 

Yet, most of us don't even question the validity. 

We have these stories that run on repeat that aren't even true, yet we never question our thinking. 

I don't want to get too coachy here, lol. But we all have a primitive brain, which is very much like a little bully. 

Its sole purpose is to seek pleasure (think false pleasure - dopamine hit, food, alcohol, drugs, etc.) and avoid pain. 

ALL pain, the pain that comes with growth. 

The pain that comes with being human. 

So, if you don't question your thinking, you end up letting this little bully run the show. 

It's like letting a toddler drive the car. 

One of my clients was working toward her "impossible" goal, and she came to our call with:

"I just can't stay focused."

"I don't think the timing is right."

"It's probably not going to work."

"I'm not educated enough to pull this off."

"I don't even know who I thought I was when I set this goal."

"This is just too big for someone like me."

"This is never going to work, and I'm going to fail in front of everyone!" 

Why are you choosing to believe all of that? (It is a choice) 

She responded, "Well, I'm not choosing this; it's just what I think." 

Of course, you're having the thoughts; that's what your brain is supposed to do.   

But you don't have to believe them. 

She looked at me like, "Huh?" 

So I gave her an example. 

Imagine this scenario. 

Your son comes home from school and says, "Mom! This kid told me I'm a complete loser today." 

You reply with, "Oh? What did he say?" 

"Well, he said I'm ugly. I'm the dorkiest kid at school. I screw everything up. My clothes are super nerdy, etc." 

You think about it and respond with, "Well, you might actually be a loser. If he said those things, they must be true." 

😂🤣😂 

Not in a million years. 

We would NEVER do this. 

Yet, we do it to ourselves all the time. 

Have "optional thoughts" that aren't factual. 

"I never finish anything." 

Optional. 

Totally harmless if you don't believe it. 

Catastrophic if you do, because guess what? 

If you think it's true, you will never finish anything. 

Because if it WAS actually true, why even try? 

Seriously. 

If your brain offers you that thought often and you believe it, you probably do have a lot of evidence that it is true. 

But it's not because of your DNA, or it's just "who you are." 

It's because you're choosing to believe the bully.  

If you're interested in working with me, we can hop on a Zoom session and dig into what that would look like for you.  

You can schedule your free call, here. 

Challenge yo’ brain,
Machele

Machele Galloway is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School. She's based in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and specializes in helping her clients manage their time and their minds. She firmly believes that you can't manage one without managing the other. She virtually coaches women nationwide. If she isn't coaching clients, she is studying concepts and techniques. And if she isn't doing that, she's probably playing with a dog or watching the Real Housewives of some city. - “Life is short. Play a little.”